#10: Completed, Finding a Gay Friendly Church in Dallas

Number 10 on my Thirty by 30 list was to find a church community in Dallas. I’m happy to say we’ve completed that! We have joined the Episcopal Church of the Transfiguration. We’re very happy there and starting to get involved. Jaye is being baptized on Sunday. I’ve been attending the Moms Group on Wednesday mornings. We went to a Halloween party last weekend hosted by some church friends. And Jaye and I just got home this morning from a play date with some other church moms.

To start our search for a church home, I googled “gay friendly church dallas” because that was a really important factor in our decision. We were primarily looking for a gay friendly Episcopal church in Dallas. Why? I’m not interested in quibbling about minor points of theology, so I wasn’t too worried about what other specific beliefs a church held, but the stance of a church on the gay rights issue is important to Phil and I because we believe it’s essential to the fundamental command of Christianity.

In Matthew 22:37, Jesus tells us what he considers the most important commandments: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’38 This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

We wanted to find a church where the people strive to love their neighbors as themselves. And I don’t believe you can do that if you are not welcoming to all people regardless of their sexual orientation. I think it’s as simple as that. To me, being open and welcoming and loving to all people is the essential fulcrum of Christianity, second only to loving God.

So that’s why our search for a new church home started with Google and the phrase “gay friendly church dallas.”


  1. Yay! I love this! I had a professor in college that said in class once, “I have just a few things in my faith that are non-negotiables. Everything else is up for discussion.” Salvation is a non-negotiable. God’s sovereignty is a non-negotiable. Baptism? Denomination? Personal beliefs/preferences? Negotiables. I think Christians need to love more and judge less, and unfortunately, I’m connected with a denomination that is not often known for kindness. I am very happy for you!

    • I like that idea of thing being negotiable or non-negotiable. It’s true that somethings are up for discussion, and I think that’s important to recognize with religion. We just don’t know everything and won’t ever know it all, so we can’t be so certain about tiny details.

  2. Katie Lind says:

    Great post! We also sought out a church that was accepting of all people. I’m glad you’ve found a church community that fits well with you and your family!

  3. Hi. Do many gay men attend here as well? I just moved to Dallas and am also looking for a church. I don’t do the club scene and would also hope to meet someone there as well maybe.

  4. Hi Jill..

    When you say there are quite a few, does that mean a handful or a lot more than that? Hard question maybe, but I’ve visited a few since I posted this question to you and I’ve not had much luck finding a place that really had a solid large gay group of men. And, I don’t want to go to Cathedral of Hope. 🙂


    • I’m not sure on the numbers. But I think more than a handful. Definitely worth a visit. If you visit, ask Ellen at the visitors desk right inside the entry and she’ll be able to get you more information. I know the GLBT group hosts various events so you could attend one and check it out.
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  5. I haven’t found the guts to attend yet, although I plan to this weekend. I have visited a few other “friendly” churches in the city and they really weren’t for me. Now that some of my family has moved out of Dallas, I am kind of alone here.
    I recognize I need to find at least a church so that I can have a circle there at least and not be alone all the time.

    Hoping to also get out of teaching as this year ends. Districts have become far too controlling. It’s time for me to see what other kind of job I can commit to.

    Hope that this church will work out for me. Congrats on passing the bar by the way. That’s awesome!!

    • Bob Walker says:

      Silas, Have you visited St Thomas the Apostle Episcopal Church on the corner of Mockingbird Lane and Inwood Road? This Church is small, friendly and about 50% gay. Our main mass is at 10 AM Sunday. We welcome all.